3. Can you tell me about your support system?

Many newcomers leave behind strong networks of family and friends. Your therapist will want to understand who supports you now — whether it’s family in Canada, community members, coworkers, or online connections. If you’re feeling alone, this question is a gentle way to explore how to rebuild your social circle. Therapists can also help connect you with local support groups or multicultural associations that help newcomers thrive. 

4. What was your experience with mental health in your home country?

This question is about understanding your cultural background and any beliefs you hold about therapy or mental health. In many parts of the world, therapy may be considered taboo or misunderstood. Your therapist wants to know if this is your first experience with mental health support, or if you’ve had positive or negative experiences in the past. This helps them adjust their approach and avoid assumptions.

 What are you hoping to gain from therapy?

You don’t need to have a perfect answer. Maybe you just want to feel better. Maybe you’re tired of overthinking. Maybe you want tools to handle stress. All of these are valid. This question helps your therapist understand your goals. Do you want emotional support? Coping strategies? Trauma healing? Clarity about your identity or direction in life? Together, you can co-create a plan that feels right.

6. What are some challenges you’ve faced since moving here?

This is one of the most common and important questions. It invites you to talk about real-life struggles:

• Language difficulties
• Racism or discrimination
• Finding work
• Legal or immigration stress
• Parenting in a new culture
• Feeling “in-between” cultures

Sharing these issues allows your therapist to validate your experiences and offer culturally informed support.

 Have you experienced trauma, grief, or loss?

Many immigrants carry hidden pain. You may have lost loved ones, left behind a home you loved, or endured violence or abuse. Your therapist might gently ask about trauma — but only when you’re ready. You’re always in control of what you share. This question is not meant to trigger pain but to create space for healing. Trauma-informed therapists are trained to listen, support, and help you process at your own pace.

8. What helps you feel safe, calm, or grounded?

This question helps your therapist learn how to support you emotionally during sessions. It also gives insight into your cultural or spiritual practices that promote well-being — whether it’s prayer, journaling, cooking, nature walks, or community gatherings. Therapists respect your coping tools and may suggest others that align with your values. You don’t have to abandon what grounds you — therapy can build upon it.

9. What parts of your identity are important to you?

For many newcomers, identity becomes a source of both pride and confusion. You may be navigating between cultures, languages, or even names. Your therapist may ask about how you see yourself: Are you a parent? A student? A provider? A survivor? They may also ask about gender, sexuality, religion, ethnicity, or migration status — not to label you, but to ensure your story is understood in full. 

10. Is there anything you’re uncomfortable talking about right now?

This powerful question invites boundaries and safety into the room. Therapy should never feel like pressure. A good therapist will ask this to reassure you that you’re in charge of your healing journey. If there are topics that feel off-limits, that’s okay. You might revisit them later or never at all. Your comfort is a priority, and this question affirms your autonomy.

Why These Questions Matter

Each of these questions is a stepping stone — not just toward understanding your pain, but toward recognizing your resilience. Your therapist isn’t trying to “fix” you. They’re there to walk beside you as you find your own path to healing.

Final Thoughts: Therapy Is a Dialogue, Not an Interview

If you’re a newcomer worried about what to expect in therapy, remember that these questions aren’t a test. They’re invitations — gentle doorways into healing. You can answer what feels right, skip what doesn’t, and come back to things when you’re ready.

At bookmytherapy, we connect you with therapists who understand the complexities of immigration, identity, and healing. You’re not alone — and you’re not expected to have it all figured out.

Curious about therapy but not sure where to start? Visit us here to find therapists who can talk to you in the language of your choice. Take the first step toward feeling supported, understood, and empowered — your story matters.